Entering the last week of school before Christmas Break, I find myself drawn to a scene in the Christmas story that we skip in most of our pageants. “A voice was heard in Ramah, Lamentation, weeping, and great mourning, Rachel weeping for her children, Refusing to be comforted, because they are no more.” This scene has been played out on the news all weekend. The scene has dominated our airways, conversation, and prayers. In the midst of this scene stands our children, listening to our conversations and trying to make sense of our torment. Knowing that each child is different with varying levels of sensitivity, I would like to offer some thoughts concerning talking with your child about tragic events.
The Bible reminds us to “speak the Truth in love.” This is clearly an important application of this verse. Younger children may not have heard, but don’t assume that they haven’t. Conversations, even among young classmates, can spread scary misinformation. Ask simple questions to determine what your child has heard and understands concerning the tragedy. Make time to listen and answer questions with age-appropriate information (Talking to Children About Violence: Tips for Parents and Teachers). The questions may come when we least expect it, but don’t miss the opportunity to comfort your child in that unexpected conversation. This will require patience on your part. Your love being expressed through listening and patience will provide great reassurance as your child faces the brokenness of this world. I have attached two resources that will be of assistance as you minister to the heart of your child.
“Our children are not immune to the darkness and brokenness of our world. We may think that if we ignore this incident, our kids won’t know about it or feel the impact. Nothing could be further from the truth! Our kids need parents and teachers—those who have influence in their lives—to be emotionally present and invested, especially in moments like these.” Dr. Tim Clinton, American Association of Christian Counselors
- Six "Ts" for Helping Kids Through Trauma
- http://www.nasponline.org/resources/crisis_safety/talkingviolence.pdf
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